Day 21: Don’t Give Up.

Some #MondayMotivation to get your week going.

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When I was younger I had so much fire in me. I was the youngest of 5 and somewhat of a golden child. My parents, my teachers, my friends— they all thought I would be something in life. I was known as the “smart one” in my circle of friends.

I soaked that shit up.

It was a time in my life when I truly, deeply believed in myself. Talk about positive reinforcement. There was no doubt in my mind that I was going to be someone great! Someone inspiring and well spoken, funny and charismatic, beautiful, successful and wealthy! I had high expectations for myself.

I did accomplish alot!

These days when I’m feeling down or being hard on myself, I have to remind myself that I have accomplished alot! I was the first in my family to graduate from college and get a Bachlor’s degree. I went to grad school and received a Master’s degree. I landed my first job. At the time I was making 40K a year, and let me tell you, I thought that was a-whole-latta money!

In retrospect it really was. My mom had never made 40K a year, my sister never made that much, nor my aunts, or any close female relative. I was breaking records in my family! I was moving on up. I was fulfilling my destiny as the family savior.

Now, let’s fast forward a few years. I’ve secured a job where I make a comfortable living. I’m a typical millennial who shops a Trader Joe’s and overpays for coffee. The question is, will I look back in 20 years and be satisfied with the life I’m living? Where is the fire from my younger self?

No, I’m not still making 40K a year, but also not making that much more…I had dreams of being a BOSS. I envisioned a life of financial freedom. I envisioned myself helping others accomplish their goals and becoming a role model kids growing up like I did. But my comfy little desk job and mediocre salary have gotten in the way.

My complacency makes me feel like a failure!

Somehow being stuck in this stage of my life makes me feel like everything I’ve accomplished up till now means nothing. It’s a dreadful feeling that can easily take you down the rabbit hole of self pity and self doubt.

Although I had been feeling down on myself for a while, when I finally decided to take action, it was truly life changing. Here are some things I did.

How to Pick Yourself Up Again

Make a list of your goals. What is it that you want to accomplish? For me those goals were:

  1. Become financially free
  2. Do something I find meaningful
    • And with that, use my time more productively
  3. Inspire others

Next you need to come up with a plan to reach these goals.

To have goals is to have a vision, to complete your goals is to take action.

My biggest problem was not having goals, it was taking action! I was lazy and in my comfort zone. I didn’t have the same fire I had when I didn’t have anything and wanted something. Now I have something and want more. I think this crucial distinction is what separates the greats for the okays.

I took the following actions to achieve my goals:

  1. Started this blog.
  2. Started working out, waking up early and eating healthier.
  3. Started educating myself on financial literacy and how to become financially free.

Finally, don’t give up. I find myself getting discouraged at times and feeling like I haven’t accomplished my goals fast enough. I have to constantly remind myself that it took me 4 years to graduate college and 2 more years for a masters! Greatness does not happen overnight.

The Bottom Line

Whenever you feel like giving up, or like you aren’t good enough, or that you will never reach your goals, do this simple exercise: name three things you’ve done in your life that you are extremely proud of. If you can’t think of three then start with one. Then name three things you are looking forward to accomplishing in the future. Again, if you can’t think of three then start with one. Keep meditating on these two lists until you can come up with three solid answers. Once you start to believe in yourself, you’ll be half way there.

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